After years of putting everyone else first, choosing yourself can feel like a radical act — maybe even an impossible one.
You might wonder, What does that even mean? Where do I begin?
Choosing yourself doesn’t always look like a grand gesture or a life-altering decision (though sometimes it does). More often, it begins with a whisper. A small “no” when you used to say yes. A moment of stillness when you used to keep going. A single brave decision to believe that you matter, too.
It’s not selfish. It’s sacred. And it starts with remembering that your needs, dreams, and well-being are not optional.
Emotional Ways to Choose Yourself
- Say no without guilt to things that drain your energy or compromise your peace.
- Feel your feelings without minimizing them or brushing them aside. Your emotions are valid.
- Walk away from toxic conversations or people who leave you feeling small or unworthy.
- Speak kindly to yourself, especially in moments of struggle.
- Honor your boundaries — even if they make others uncomfortable.
- Let go of people-pleasing, even if it means disappointing others to stay true to yourself.
Practical Ways to Choose Yourself
- Start your morning with intention — even just 5 minutes of quiet or a warm cup of tea.
- Journal your truth — write down what you're feeling, fearing, or dreaming.
- Invest in your healing — therapy, coaching, support groups, or sacred rituals.
- Take yourself on a solo date — nature walk, bookstore, or coffee shop retreat.
- Declutter your space — home, inbox, or calendar.
- Prioritize sleep, nourishment, and movement — not to change yourself, but to care for yourself.
Spiritual & Soulful Ways to Choose Yourself
- Meditate or pray — connect with something bigger than yourself.
- Sit in the sun and breathe — feel the warmth and light.
- Use affirmations like: “I deserve peace. I am worthy of love. I trust my path.”
- Create daily rituals — lighting candles, pulling cards, reading quotes.
- Listen to your inner voice — the quiet one who knows the way.
- Let go of timelines and expectations. Trust your divine timing.
Gentle Reminders as You Begin to Choose You
- It may look selfish to those who benefited from your self-abandonment. Let them think what they will.
- You don’t need a perfect plan — just the next right step.
- You are allowed to change and grow.
- Not everyone will understand. That’s okay.
- The more you choose yourself, the more aligned your life becomes.
Today’s Affirmation
“I choose myself — boldly, quietly, unapologetically — because I am worthy of love, peace, and joy.”
Journal Prompt:
What is one area of your life where you've been neglecting your own needs? What would choosing yourself look like in that space?
This is just the beginning. Choosing yourself is not a one-time decision — it’s a daily devotion. A thousand small acts of love that tell your soul: “I see you. I hear you. I’ve got you now.”
You are not alone. And if no one else has told you lately — I am so proud of you.
Check back soon for the next post, where I’ll be sharing tools and rituals to help you stay grounded in your healing journey — including some of Lady and Luna’s most magical journal prompts and self-love practices.
With all my fire and softness,
Amy (Cindra Flamehart)
Creator of Lady and Luna Journals — made for the woman who’s ready to rise.
